GRUHAM-गृहं - HOUSE (2)

 SUBHASHITHANI:378

While on the subject of gruhastaashrama, I happened to stumble upon two beautiful slokas, one in praise and the other denouncing it. I have pleasure in including them  in this blog and hope readers will find it interesting.

तप्त्वा तपस्वी विपिने क्षुधार्तो
गृहं समायाति सदान्न दातुः ।
भुक्त्वा स चान्नं प्रददाति तस्मै
तपो विभागं भजते हि तस्य ॥
Truptvaa tapasvi Vipin kshudhaarto
Guham samaayaati sadaanna daatuh I
Bhuktvaa sa chaannam pradadaati tasmai
Tapo vibhagam bhajate hi tasya II
A sage performing tapas in the forest, when he feels the need for satisfying his hunger, visits a house-holder who provides him with food. After taking the food he gives a portion of his religious merit(punya) to the house-holder.

यथा वायुं समाश्रित्य वर्तन्ते सर्वजन्तवः ।
तथा गृहस्थमाश्रित्य वर्तन्ते सर्व आश्रमाः ॥Manusmruti
yathā vāyuṃ samāśritya vartante sarvajantavaḥ |
tathā gṛhasthamāśritya vartante sarva āśramāḥ ||3. 77 ||
Just as all Creatures subsist by deriving support from air, so do the other states subsist by deriving support from the House holder.

गृहस्‍थस्‍त्‍वेष धर्माणां सर्वेषां मूलमुच्‍यते ।। Mahabharat 12.234.

The householder is the basic support of all types of Righteousness. 

இல்வாழ்வான் என்பான் இயல்புடைய மூவர்க்கும்
நல்லாற்றின் நின்ற துணை. Thirukkural-41
The house holder is the mainstay of all who follow the other paths of life.

 उष्णकाले जलं दद्याच्शीतकाले हुताशनं ।
 प्रावृट्काले गृहं देयं सर्वकाले च भोजनं ।।
Ushna kale jalam dadhyaat sheeta kaale hutaasanam I
Praavrut kaale gruham deyam sarva kaale cha bhojanam II
In summer provide water, In winter provide fire-place, In rainy season provide shelter in your house and provide food at all times.

अपुत्रस्य गृहं शून्यं हृदयं दुःखितं सदा।
पितृदेव मनुष्याणां नानृणित्वं सुतं विना।।
Aputrasya gruham shunyam hrudayam dukhitam sadaa I
Pitrudeava manushyaanam naanrunitvam sutam vina II
The house of the sonless is void, always feeling pain at heart; The debt to the fore-fathers and devatas can not be repaid without a son.

क्रोशन्तः शिशवः सवारि सदनं पङ्कावृतं चाङ्गणम्
शय्या दंशवती च रुक्षमशनं धूमेन पूर्णः सदा ।
भार्या निष्ठुरभाषिणी प्रभुरपि क्रोधेन पूर्णः सदा
स्नानंशीतलवारिणा हि सततं धिग् गृहस्थाश्रमम् ॥
In this house the children are crying, water is leaking everywhere, courtyard is full of mire, bed has bed-bugs, food is dry and tasteless, smoke everywhere all the time. The house wife is rude in her speech, man of the house is angry all the time; bath has to be in cold water ; fie upon being a householder.

सानन्दं सदनं सुताश्च सुधियः कान्ता प्रियभाषिणी
सन्मित्रं सधनं स्वयोषिति रतिः चाज्ञापराः सेवकाः ।
आतिथ्यं शिवपूजनं प्रतिदिनं मिष्टान्नपानं गृहे
साधोः सङ्गमुपासते हि सततं धन्यो गृहस्थाश्रमः ॥
In this house there is always happiness, the children are intelligent, wife is sweet spoken, good friends around, wealth is plenty, husband and wife have love for each other, servants are obedient; the house is filled with guests, puja, and good food. There are always wise men around; it is a pleasure to be a householder.

अतिथिर्बालकः पत्नी जननी जनकस्तथा।
पञ्चैते गृहिणः पोष्या इतरे न स्वशक्तितः॥
Atithir balakah patneee jananee janakstatha I
Panchaite gruhinah poshyaa itare n svashaktitah II
Guest, children, wife, mother and father, these five must be protected by the house holder; others he can help according to his capability.

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH

GRUHAM-गृहं - HOUSE

 SUBHASHITHANI:377

वनेऽपि दोषा प्रभवन्ति रागिणां  

गृहेऽपि पञ्चेन्द्रिय निग्रह स्तपः ।
अकुत्सिते कर्मणि यः प्रवर्तते  

निवृत्तरागस्य गृहं तपोवनम् ॥

Vanepi doshaa prabhavanti raaginaam 

gruhepi panchendriya nigrahas tapah I

Akutsite karmani yah pravartate

Nivvrutta raagasya gruham tapovanam II

The man filled with desires will find no solace in the forest. On the other hand  keeping senses under control is a penance even at home. If one is sincere in his work and rejects all lustful desires – his own house becomes a tapovanam.

माता यस्य गृहे नास्ति भार्या चाप्रियवादिनी।
अरण्यं तेन गन्तव्यं यथारण्यं तथा गृहम् ॥
Maataa yasya gruhe naasti bhaaryaa cha priyavaadini I
Aranyam tena gantavyam yataaranyam tatha gruham II
In whose house there is no mother and the wife is not soft-spoken, what he will do by going to a jungle because as is the jungle so is the home for him. 

विद्या मित्रं प्रवसेषु भार्या मित्रं गृहेषु च ।
व्यधितस्यौषधं मित्रं धर्मो मित्रं मृतस्य च ॥
vidyaa mitra.n pravaseShu bhaaryaa mitram gRRiheShu cha I
vyaadhitas yauShadham mitram dharmo mitram mRRitasya cha II
Knowledge is a person's friend in foreign land, at home wife is the best friend, medicine is a sick person's friend, 'dharma' is the only friend after death.

वित्तेन  रक्ष्यते  धर्मो  विद्या  योगेन  रक्ष्यते  |
मृदुना रक्ष्यते  भूपः  सत्स्त्रियां  रक्ष्यते गृहम्   ||Chanakya Niti
Vittena rakshyate  dharmo  Vidyaa yogena  rakshyate.
Mrudunaa rakshyate  bhoopah  satstriyaa rakshyate  gruham.
The Morality is sustained by charitable use of wealth, and knowledge gets protected by its continuous use.  A king must be protected (served) very politely and gently, and a home gets protection by its virtuous women family members.

अपुत्रस्य गृहं शून्यं सन्-मित्र-रहितस्य च ।
मूर्खस्य च दिशः शून्याः सर्व-शून्या दरिद्रता ॥Hitopadesa
aputrasya gṛhaṃ śūnyaṃ san-mitra-rahitasya ca |
mūrkhasya ca diśaḥ śūnyāḥ sarva-śūnyā daridratā ||1.121 ||
The house of the sonless is void, and so is of one who has no friends; all the quarters are void to a fool; but everything is void to a poor man.

अर्थनाशं मनस्तापं गृहे दुश्चरितानि च ।
वञ्चनं चापमानं च मतिमान् न प्रकाशयेत् ॥Chanakya niti
arthanaasha.n manastaapa.n gRRihe dushcharitaani cha
vaJNchana.n chaapamaana.n cha matimaan na prakaashyet
Wise people do not talk about - loss of wealth, sadness in heart, family scandal, getting cheated, and insult.

दुष्टा भार्या शठं मित्रं भृत्यश्चोत्तरदायकः ।
ससर्पे च गृहे वासो मृत्युरेव न संशयः ॥
duShTaa bhaaryaa shaTha.n mitra.n bhRRityashchottaradaayakaH
sasarpe cha gRRihe vaaso mRRityureva na sa.nshayaH
The person who has a bad wife, a betrayer as a friend, a servant who answers back,  and a snake in house; it is same as living in perpetual death.

अर्थाः गृहे निवर्तन्ते  श्मशाने पुत्रबान्धवाः। 
 सुकृतं दुष्कृतञ्चैव  गच्छन्तमनुगच्छति ।।
arthā gṛhe nivartante śmaśāne mitrabāndhavāḥ ।
sukṛtaṃ duṣkṛtaṃ caiva gacchantamanugacchati ॥ mahābhārata
Wealth gets left behind at home, friends and family at the crematorium. It is one’s good and evil actions that accompany oneself after death

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH

PANKHAH- पङ्कः , कर्दमः - MUD, MIRE, CLAY

 SUBHASHITHANI:376

धर्मार्थ यस्य वित्तेहा वरं तस्य निरीहता ।
प्रक्षालनाद्धि पङ्कस्य श्रेयो न स्पर्शनं नृणाम् ॥ ३४॥शौनकगीता
Dharmartham yasya vitteha varam tasya nireehataa I
Prakshalanaddhi pankasya duradasprshanam varam ॥Shaunaka gita
Desire for wealth even if it is for religious duties it is preferable to avoid it; It is better not to touch mud instead of washing it off afterwards.

मन्दोऽप्यमन्दतामेति संसर्गेण विपश्चितः ।
पङ्कच्छिदः फलस्येव निकषेणाविलं पयः ॥ मालविकाग्निमित्रम्
Even a dull person becomes sharp by keeping company with the wise, just like the turbid water which becomes clear when treated with the dust-removing fruit.

(Malavikaagnimitra-Kalidasa )

असतोऽपि भवति गुणवान् सद्भ्योऽपि परं भवन्त्यसद्वृत्ताः।
पङ्कादुदेति कमलं क्रिमयः कमालादपि भवन्ति॥
asato’pi bhavati guṇavān sadbhyo’pi paraṁ bhavantyasadvṛttāḥ|
paṅkādudeti kamalaṁ krimayaḥ kamālādapi bhavanti||
A virtuous person may spring even from a bad source and one of bad conduct even from the virtuous. The (beautiful) lotus springs from (dirty) mud, but worms are seen to spring even from a lotus.

कौशेयं कृमिजं सुवर्णम् उपलाद् दुर्वापि गोरोमतः

पङ्कात् तामरसं शशाङ्क उदधेर् इन्दीवरं गोमयात् ।
काष्ठाद् अग्निर् अहेः फणाद् अपि मणिर् गो-पित्ततो रोचना

प्राकाश्यं स्व-गुणोदयेन गुणिनो गच्छन्ति किं जन्मना ॥ Pancha tantra

kauśeyaṃ kṛmijaṃ suvarṇam upalād durvāpi goromataḥ
 paṅkāt tāmarasaṃ śaśāṅka udadher indīvaraṃ gomayāt |
kāṣṭhād agnir aheḥ phaṇād api maṇir go-pittato rocanā
 prākāśyaṃ sva-guṇodayena guṇino gacchanti kiṃ janmanā || 103 ||

Silk is spun by a [humble] worm; gold is born of a rock; the holy dūrvā grass springs from a cow’s hair; The lotus, from mud; the moon, from ocean; the beetle from dung; Fire flashes out of wood; the emerald, from a serpent’s hood; orpiment, from the bile of cow; A person of merit shines by the light of his own merits; of what consequence is birth?

हा हा पुत्रक नाधीतं सुगतैतासु रात्रिषु  ।
तेन त्वं विदुषां मध्ये पङ्के गौरिव सीदसि  ॥ ३९१
Ha ha putraka naadhitam sugataitaasu raatrishu ।
Tena tvam vidushaam madhye panke gauriva seedasi ॥391
Alas! My son, you did not acquire knowledge in the bygone nights.
Because of that, in the company of learned people, you are like a cow with its legs stuck in clay.-Hitopaesa

duggā uddharath’attānaṃ paṅke sanno’va  kuñjaro. ( Buddhist Proverbs) Pali
Like as the mired elephant sunk in mud pulls himself up, elevate your own mind from the slough (of passions).

A Samasya Pooranam by Kalidasa -‘हुताशनश्चन्दनपङ्कशीतलः’

सुतं पतन्तं सुसमीक्ष्य पावके न बोधयामास पतिं पतिव्रता।
तदाऽभवत् तत्पतिभक्तिगौरवात् हुताशनश्चन्दनपङ्कशीतलः॥

Glory of a chaste woman- Even after seeing her son falling in to the fire, wife didn't wake up her sleeping husband. By the power of her chastity the fire became cool like a sandal paste.

विपक्षमखिलीकृत्य प्रतिष्ठा खलु दुर्लभा ।
अनीत्वा पङ्कतां धूलिमुदकं नावतिष्ठते ॥ 2.34

Vipaksham akhileekrutya pratishtaa khalu durlabhaa I

Aneetva pankataam dhoolim udakam naavaishtate II Shishupala vadam

Without completely getting rid of the enemy fame or stability can not be achieved; Just as in a pond clear water can not be obtained without clearing  the mud and dirt.

अधमे संगता लक्ष्मीर्नोपभोगाय कस्यचित् ।

कर्दमे पतिता छाया सहकारतरोरिव ।।
Adame sangataa lakshmee na upabhogaaya kasyachit I
Kardame patitaa chaayaa sahakaarataroriva II
The wealth of the inferior men is never useful to others; just as the shadow of the tree fallen on slushy ground benefits no one.

विश्वामित्रेच  वार्धक्ये  रात्रौ अप्सु कर्दमे  | 
 अन्धे सर्पेच क्रीडेच दण्डं दशगुणं भवेत् II
"Viswaamitrecha vaardhakye raatrou apsu kardame I
, andhe sarpecha kreedecha dandam dashagunam bhavet"  II

The ten uses of a stick:
1) to drive away the birds "Vihaga",2) to drive away a dog "Shwaana"
3) to fight with an enemy "Amitra"4) for support in Old Age "Vardhakye" 
5) for support in the dark or night time "Ratrou"6) for support while treading a river, "Apsu"
7) for saving a person from a quagmire or quicksand "Kardame"
8) undoubtedly, for a blind person "Andhe" 

9) to drive away or save oneself from a snake "Sarpe"
10) for use in sports "Kride"

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBYAM NAMAH