HUSBAND-BHARTAA-PATI -(भर्ता,पति)

SUBHASHITHANI;169

संतुष्टो भार्यया भर्ता भार्या भर्त्रा तथैव च ।

 यस्मिन्नेव कुले नित्यं कल्याणं तत्र वै ध्रुवं ॥- मनुस्मृति

Santushto bhaaryayaa bhartaa bhaaryaa bhartraa tataivacha I

Yasminneva kule nithyam kalyaanam vai dhruvam II

Those clans will  definitely prosper and be full of joy where the husbands are content with their wives and the wives are content with their husbands.

नातन्त्री वाद्यते वीणा नाचक्रो वर्तते रथः।

नापतिस्सुखमेधेत या स्यादपि शतात्मजा।।Ramayana

Naa tantree vadhyate veenaa naachakro vartate rathah I

Naa patis sukhamedeta yaa syadapi shataatmajaa II

A veena (lute) sans strings cannot be played. A chariot without wheels cannot move. Similarly, a woman without her husband finds no happiness even though she has one hundred sons.

मितं ददाति हि पिता मितं माता मितं सुतः।

अमितस्य हि दातारं भर्तारं का न पूजयेत्।। Ramayana

Mitam dadaati hi pitaa mitam maataa mitam sutah I

Amitasya hi daataaram bhartaaram kaa na pujayate II

 While the happiness that the father, mother and son give is limited, a husband gives unlimited happiness. Which wife will not worship such a husband?

पतिहीना तु या नारी न सा शक्ष्यति जीवितुम्।

काममेवं विधं राम त्वया मम निदर्शितम्।।Ramayana

Patiheenaa tu yaa naari na saa shakshyati jeevitum I

Kaamamevam vidham Rama tvayaa mama nidarshitam  II

Your salutary instruction to me, O Rama, is 'A woman cannot live without her husband'. This truth is greatly applicable to me. ( Sita's arguments to accompany Rama to the forest )

न पिता नात्मजो नात्मा न माता न सखीजनः।

इह प्रेत्य च नारीणां पतिरेको गतिस्सदा।।Ramayana

Na pitaa naatmajo naatmaa na maataa na sakhee janah I

Iha pretya cha naareenaam patireko gati’s sadaa II

It is not her father or mother, nor her son or herself, nor her friends but her husband alone gives a woman the permanent refuge in this or in the next world.

राजा राष्ट्रकृतं पापं राज्ञः पापं पुरोहितः ।

भर्ता च स्त्रीकृतं पापं शिष्यपापं गुरुः तथा ॥Chanakya

A king is culpable for sins committed by the nation. The adviser to the king is culpable of sins committed by the king. Husband is responsible for his wife's sins. A teacher is responsible for the sins of the pupil.

पिता रक्षति कौमारे भर्ता रक्षति यौवने ।

पुत्रो रक्षति वार्धक्ये न स्त्री स्वातन्त्र्यमर्हति ॥Manu smruti

Pitaa rakshati kaumaare bhartaa rakshati yauvane I

Putro rakshati vaardakye na stree svaatantrayam arhati II
In childhood, a woman is protected by her father, by her husband in her youth and by her sons in her old age. A woman should never be left alone to fend for herself.

भर्तुः शुश्रूषया नारी लभते स्वर्गमु त्तमम् || Ramayana

अपि या निर्नमस्कारा निवृत्ता देवपूजनात् |

Even if a woman does not offer salutation to celestials and does not worship the gods, she will attain the highest heaven by service to her husband ."
தெய்வம் தொழாஅள் கொழுநன் தொழுதெழுவாள்
பெய்யெனப் பெய்யும் மழை.Kural:55
If she, who does not worship God, but who rising worships her husband,  the rain falls instant at her word!.

प्रसादो निष्फलो यस्य क्रोधश्चापि निरर्थकः |

न तं भर्तारमिच्छन्ति षण्डं पतिमिव स्त्रियः || Vidura neeti

A person is to be considered useless if his being pleased does not help you, or his wrath is not potent enough. He is as useless as an impotent husband for a wife. No one will want to serve such a master.

मातु पिता भ्राता हितकारी।

मितप्रद सब सुनु राजकुमारी॥

अमित दानि भर्ता बयदेही।

अधम सो नारि जो सेव न तेही॥3॥Ramcharit manas- Anasooyaa to Sita

Listen, O Princess: a mother, father and brother are all kind to us; but they bestow only limited joy. A husband, however, bestows unlimited joy (in the shape of blessedness), O Janaka's daughter; vile is the woman who refuses to serve him.॥

पर्जन्यनाथाः पशवो राजानो मन्त्रिबान्धवाः ।

पतयो बान्धवाः स्त्रीणां ब्राह्मणा वेदबान्धवाः ॥ ॥Vidura neeti

Rain sustains plants, king is supported by the ministers, husbands support their wives, the scholars protect the vedas.

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH