WIFE-BHAARYAA- (भार्या )

SUBHASHITHANI;168

किं स्विदात्मा मनुष्यस्य

किं स्विद्दैवकृतः सखा ।Yaksha prasna

What is the atma of man?

Who is the divinely created friend?

पुत्र आत्मा मनुष्यस्य

भार्या दैवकृतः सखा ।

The son is the atma of man

The divinely created friend is the wife

आपत्सु मित्रं जानीयाद्रणे शूरमृणे शुचिम् ।

भार्यां क्षीणेषु वित्तेषु व्यसनेषु च बान्धवान् ॥

Aapatsu mitram jaaneeyaat, rane sooram mrune shuchim I

Bhaaryaa ksheeneshu vitteshu vyasaneshu cha bhandhavah II

Friend in difficulties, The powerful in war, In debt the virtuous, The wife in penury ,And know relatives in calamities.

यस्य पुत्रो वशीभूतो भार्या छन्दानुगामिनी।

 विभवे यस्य सन्तुष्टिस्तस्य स्वर्ग इहैव हि।। Chanakya neeti

He whose son is obedient to him, whose wife's conduct is in accordance with his wishes, and who is content with his riches, has his heaven here on earth.

 ते पुत्रा ये पितुर्भक्ताः सः पिता यस्तु पोषकः।

 तन्मित्रं यत्र विश्वासः सा भार्या या निवृतिः।।,

They alone are sons who are devoted to their father. He is a father who supports his sons. He is a friend in whom we can confide, and she only is a wife in whose company the husband feels contented and peaceful.

स्वकर्मधर्मार्जितजीवितानां

    शास्त्रेषु दारेषु सदा रतानाम् ।

जितेंद्रियाणामतिथिप्रियाणां

    गृहेऽपि मोक्षः पुरुषोत्तमानाम् ॥

sva karma dharma arjita jIvitAnAm   shAstreShu dAreShu sadA ratAnAm ।

jitendriyANAm atithi priyANAm   gRuhe api mokShaH puruShottamAnAm ॥

It is salvation right in the middle of running household for those who - earn their living by doing moral acts only, who are always in the company of scriptures, their wives, who have their senses under their control and who love to serve their  guests.

विद्या मित्रं प्रवासेषु भार्या मित्रं गृहेषु च ।
व्याधितस्यौषधं मित्रं धर्मो मित्रं मृतस्य च ॥
  Vidyaa mitram pravaaseshu bhaaryaa  mitram griheshu cha
Vyaadhitasyaushadham mitram dharmo mitram mritasya cha

For one in an alien land learning is friend, for one staying at home wife is friend , for one suffering from illness medicine is friend and for the departed souls dharma is friend.

यस्य भार्या गॄहे नास्ति साध्वी च प्रिायवादिनी I

 अरण्यं तेन गन्तव्यं यथाऽरण्यं तथा गॄहम् II

A person whose wife lacks the good conduct  and pleasing words , such a person should leave home and go to forest because for him, there should be no difference between a forest and his own home!

இல்லதென் இல்லவள் மாண்பானால் உள்ளதென்
இல்லவள் மாணாக் கடை?.Kural:53

If his wife be eminent (in virtue), what does (that man) not possess ? If she be without excellence, what does (he) possess ?.

 न भार्यया समं मित्रं न च धर्मो दयासमः ।

न स्वातंत्र्यसमं सौख्यं गार्हस्थ्यान्नाश्रमो वरः ॥

na bhAryayaa samam mitram na cha dharmo dayA samaH ।

na svAtantrya samam saukhyam gArhasthyaat na aashramo varaH ॥

There is no better friend than a wife. No dharma better than compassion. Nothing better than being free. No state of life is better than running a household .

दुष्टा भार्या शठं मित्रं भृत्यश्चोत्तरदायकः।

 ससर्पे गृहे वासो मृत्युरेव न संशयः।। Chanakya

A wicked wife, a false friend, a saucy servant and living in a house with a serpent in it are nothing but death.

त्यजेद्धर्म दयाहीनं विद्याहीनं गुरुं त्यजेत्।

त्यजेत्क्रोधमुखी भार्या निःस्नेहान्बान्धवांस्यजेत्।।

That man who is without religion and mercy should be rejected. A guru without spiritual knowledge should be rejected. The wife with an offensive face should be given up, and so should relatives who are without affection.

यः प्रीणयेत् सुचरितैः पितरं स पुत्रः

    यद् भर्तुरेव हितमिच्छति तत्कलत्रम् ।

तन्मित्रमापदि सखे च समक्रियं यत्

    एतत्त्रयं जगति पुण्यकृतो लभन्ते ॥

A good son is one who makes his father happy (by being obedient, follow dharma). A good wife is one who always keeps the interest of her husband in her mind. A good friend is one who does not change his mind when you are in trouble. Only people who have done good deeds in the past will get these in this world.

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH