MITRALABHA-10-GAINING OF FRIENDS

 SUBHASHITHANI:517

अयं निजः परो वेति गणना लघु-चेतसाम् ।
उदार-चरितानां तु वसुधैव कुटुम्बकम् ॥ ७१ ॥
ayaṃ nijaḥ paro veti gaṇanā laghu-cetasām |
udāra-caritānāṃ tu vasudhaiva kuṭumbakam || 1.71 ||
The small-minded count "this is mine and that is someone else's";
For the men of great character, the whole world is their family!

न कश्चित् कस्यचिन् मित्रं न कश्चित् कस्यचिद् रिपुः ।
व्यवहारेण मित्राणि जायन्ते रिपवस् तथा ॥ ७२ ॥
na kaścit kasyacin mitraṃ na kaścit kasyacid ripuḥ |
vyavahāreṇa mitrāṇi jāyante ripavas tathā || 1.72 ||
No one is anyone's friend, no one is anyone's enemy. Friends and enemies are born by one’s own conduct.

आपत्सु मित्रं जानीयाद् रणे शूरं ऋणे शुचिम् ।
भार्यां क्षीणेषु वित्तेषु व्यसनेषु च बान्धवान् ॥ ७३ ॥

āpatsu mitraṃ jānīyād raṇe śūraṃ ṛṇe śucim |
bhāryāṃ kṣīṇeṣu vitteṣu vyasaneṣu ca bāndhavān || 1.73 ||

Friend in difficulties, The powerful in war, In debt the virtuous, The wife in penury ,And know relatives in calamities.

उत्सवे व्यसने प्राप्ते दुर्भिक्षे शत्रु-सङ्कटे ।
राज-द्वारे श्मशाने च यस् तिष्ठति स बान्धवः ॥ ७४ ॥

utsave vyasane prāpte durbhikṣe śatru-saṅkaṭe |
rāja-dvāre śmaśāne ca yas tiṣṭhati sa bāndhavaḥ || 1.74 ||

He is a true relative who stands during happiness and sorrow, during a famine or when enemies attack; as also at the royal-court and at the cremation ground.

सुहृदां हित-कामानां यः शृणोति न भाषितम् ।
विपत् सन्निहिता तस्य स नरः शत्रुनन्दनः ॥ ७५ ॥

suhṛdāṃ hita-kāmānāṃ yaḥ śṛṇoti na bhāṣitam |
vipat sannihitā tasya sa naraḥ śatrunandanaḥ || 1.75 ||

One who does not listen to well- meaning friends invites adversity; such a one is a delight of his enemies.

अपराधो न मेऽस्तीति नैतद् विश्वास-कारणम् ।
विद्यते हि नृशंसेभ्यो भयं गुणवताम् अपि ॥ ७६ ॥

aparādho na me'stīti naitad viśvāsa-kāraṇam |
vidyate hi nṛśaṃsebhyo bhayaṃ guṇavatām api || 1.76 ||

“I have done no wrong” should not be the reason for having confidence in a wicked person. Even highly accomplished persons have fear from the wicked.

दीप-निर्वाण-गन्धं च सुहृद्-वाक्यम् अरुन्धतीम् ।
न जिघ्रन्ति न शृण्वन्ति न प्श्यन्ति गतायुषः ॥ ७७ ॥

dīpa-nirvāṇa-gandhaṃ ca suhṛd-vākyam arundhatīm |
na jighranti na śṛṇvanti na pśyanti gatāyuṣaḥ || 1.77 ||

Those whose life has ended, do not perceive the smell of an extinguished lamp, listen not to the words of their friend and not see the star Arundati.

परोक्षे कार्य-हन्तारं प्रत्यक्षे प्रिय-वादिनम् ।
वर्जयेत् तादृशं मित्रं विष-कुम्भं पयोमुखम् ॥ ७८ ॥
parokṣe kārya-hantāraṃ pratyakṣe priya-vādinam |
varjayet tādṛśaṃ mitraṃ viṣa-kumbhaṃ payomukham || 1.78 ||
Disrupting one's work in his absence and speaking pleasant words in his presence - shun such a friend as if they are milk at the mouth of a pot of poison.

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH