FRIENDS-(8)-MITRAH-मित्र:,स्नेह,

SUBHASHITHANI:260

मैत्रीं भजत अखिलहृज्जेत्रीम्

आत्मवदेव परानपि पश्यत ।

maitrīṃ bhajata akhilahṛjjetrīm

ātmavadeva parānapi paśyata | Kanchi Mahaswami

Cultivate Friendship and Humanity, which will conquer the Hearts of Everyone.

 Look upon others as similar to yourself.






प्राणैरपि हिता वृत्तिरद्रोहो व्याजवर्जनम् |

आत्मनीव प्रियाधानमेतन्मैत्रीमहाव्रतम् ||

prāṇair_api hitā vṛittir_adroho vyāja-varjanam |

ātamanīva priyādhānam_étan_maitrī-mahā-vratam || (IAST)

The great vow of friendship - always help (even at cost of life), never harm others , avoid excuses, treat everyone like self.

 भार्यया समं मित्रं न च धर्मो दयासमः ।

न स्वातन्त्र्यसमं सौख्यं गार्हस्थ्यान्नाश्रमो वरः ॥ पद्मपुराण
na bhāryayā samaṃ mitraṃ na ca dharmo dayāsamaḥ ।
na svātantryasamaṃ saukhyaṃ gārhasthyānnāśramo varaḥ ॥

There is no better friend than a wife. No dharma better than compassion. Nothing better than being free. No state of life is better than being a house-holder ( Gruhasthaa ).

चत्वारि  ते  तात  गृहे  वसन्तु
श्रियाभिजुष्टस्य  गृहस्थधर्मे  |
वृद्धो ज्ञातिरवसन्नः  कुलीनः
सखा दरिद्रो  भगिनी चानपत्या  ||- विदुर नीति

Chatvaari te taat gruhe vasantu Shriyaabhijushasya  gruhasthadharme.
Vruddho  gyaatiravasannah  kuleenah Sakhaa daridro  bhagini chaanapatyaa.

It is the duty of a prosperous householder that he should support these four types of persons:  (i)  an aged close relative  (ii)  a noble distressed person 

 (iii) a poor friend and (iv)  his childless sister.

विद्या मित्रं प्रवासेषु भार्या मित्रं गृहेषु च ।
व्याधितस्यौषधं मित्रं धर्मो मित्रं मृतस्य च ॥ - महाभारत

Knowledge is the companion of a person on journey; wife is the companion at home;

Medicine is the friend of the sick; merits earned by moral conduct are the friend of the dead.

अपराद्धांस्तु सुस्निग्धान् स्नेहोक्त्या मानदानत:।
साधयेद् भेददण्डाभ्यां यथायोगेन चापरान्॥
Offended friends should be reconciled by honouring and gifts and kind words; others should be won over by the proper employment of the policy of alienation or bribery or gift. 
दर्शने स्पर्शणे वापि श्रवणे भाषणेऽपि वा ।

यत्र द्रवत्यन्तरङ्गं स स्नेह इति कथ्यते ॥
It is called friendship, when seeing someone, or touching them, or hearing them, or talking to them, touches your heart. Otherwise it is just an acquaintance...

लक्ष्मीर्वसति जिह्वाग्रे जिह्वाग्रे मित्रबान्धवाः ।
जिह्वाग्रे बन्धनं प्राप्तं जिह्वाग्रे मरणं ध्रुवम् ॥

lakṣmīrvasati jihvāgre jihvāgre mitrabāndhavāḥ ।
jihvāgre bandhanaṃ prāptaṃ jihvāgre maraṇaṃ dhruvam ॥

Lakṣmī resides at the tip of the tongue; at the tip of the tongue are friends and kin;

the tip of the tongue can cause imprisonment; and certainly, the tip of the tongue 

can bring death!

कुलीनैः सह संपर्कः पण्डितैः सह मित्रताम् ।
ज्ञातिभिश्च समं मेलं कुर्वाणो न विनश्यति ॥
kulInaiH saha saMparkaH paNDitaiH saha mitratAm ।
jnAtibhiH cha samam melam kurvANo na vinashyati ॥
He shall not be ever destroyed who has acquaintance with people of powerful families, friendship with scholars and networks among knowledgeable people.

दुष्टा भार्या शठं मित्रं भृत्यश्चोत्तरदायकः ।

ससर्पे च गृहे वासो मृत्युरेव न संशयः ॥

Death is certain (soon) for a person whose wife is wicked, whose friends cheat and whose servants talk back to him. He is in same level of danger as sleeping in a house which has snakes in it. 

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH