VAIRAM- वैरं- ENMITY

 

SUBHASHITHANI:659

न हि वैरेण वैराणि शाम्यन्तीह कदाचन ।
अवैरेण हि शाम्यन्ति एष धर्मः सनातनः ॥

Enmity never ends in this world by countering enmity with enmity. Its end is possible only by behaving in harmony and not enmity, this is the eternal Dharma.

भद्रं  भद्रमिति ब्रूयाद्भद्रमित्येव  वा  वदेत्  |
शुष्क वैरं  विवादे च न कुर्यात्केनचित्सह  || - मनुस्मृति ४/१३९
Bhadram bhadramiti brooyaadbhadramityeva  vaa vadet.
Shushkavairam  Vivede cha na kuryaatkenac itsaha.
 One should always speak pleasantly and in a friendly
manner and never use harsh and foul language.  If per chance
he has to say something unpleasant, he should use  cultured
and polite language,  and should  never  have enmity and
disputes without any ground with others.

मृदोः परिभवो नित्यं वैरं तीक्ष्णस्य नित्यशः।
उत्सृज्य तद्द्वयं तस्मान्मध्यां वृत्तिं समाश्रयेत् ॥

People show contempt towards the soft and gentle persons and are agitated by the rude persons. Thus, giving up that pair of attitudes, one should resort to neutral behaviour.

अत्यन्तकोपः कटुका च वाणी दरिद्रता च स्वजनेषु वैरं ।
नीचप्रसङ्ग: कुलहीनसेवा चिह्नानि देहे नरकस्थितानाम् ॥

Extreme of anger, harsh speech, poverty, enmity with relatives,
association with evil men, service of people from not so good a family –
these are the marks of people living in Hell.

द्यूतमेतत्पुराकल्पे दृष्टं वैरकरं महत्।
तस्माद्द्यूतं न सेवेत हास्यार्थमपि बुद्धिमान्॥

We know that in the past gambling was cause of intense enmity. Thus, a wise man should never indulge in the gambling, not even for the purpose of entertainment.

दुर्जनेन समं वैरं प्रीतिं चापि न कारयेत् ।
उष्णो दहति चाङ्गारः शीतः कृष्णायते करम् ॥

Never should love, friend, and antagonism from the wicked, because it is like coal which burns us if it is hot and blackens the body when it is cold.

मरणान्तानि वैराणि निवॄत्तं न: प्रयोजनम् |
क्रीयतामस्य संस्कारो ममापेष्य यथा तव ||Ramayana
Enmity ends with death. our job is over. (Now) he(Ravan) is mine as he is yours. so do his cremation properly. These are sentences of Shri Ram after the death of Ravan on Vijaya Dashami. (Rama to Vibhishana)

इन्द्रियाणि पुरा जित्वा जितन् त्रिभुवनं त्वया।
स्मरद्भिरिव तद्वैरमिन्द्रियैरेव निर्जितः॥6.111.18

indriyāṇi purā jitvā jitan tribhuvanaṃ tvayā।
smaradbhiriva tadvairamindriyaireva nirjitaḥ॥

In the past, by performing a great penance, you
conquered the senses and conquered the three worlds.
Now, as if revenging that enmity, those very senses conquered you.
(Mandodari comment on Ravana post his death)

क्षते प्रहाराः निपातन्ति अभिक्षणं
धनक्षये वृद्धिति जठराग्निः।
आपत्सु वैराणि समुद्भदंति
चिद्रेषु अनर्थाः बहुलभवन्ति ॥
When there is a wound, one frequently stumbles in that wounded area. When the money is gone (one becomes poor), the hunger increases. When one is in trouble, the enmities crop up. When there is a loophole (when divided), problems become aplenty.

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH