MAANAM-मानं- SELF-RESPECT,PRIDE,EGO

 SUBHASHITHANI:484

आयू द्रोण सुते, श्रृयं दशरथे शत्रुक्षयं राधवे
 ऐश्वर्य नहुषे, गतिश्च पवने, मानं च दूर्योधने ।।
 सौर्य शान्तनवे, बलं हलधरे सत्यं च कुन्ती सुते
 विज्ञानं विदुरे भवतु भवतां कीर्तिश्च नारायणे ।।

Aayuh drona sute, shrayam dasarathe, shatru shayam Raghave
Aishvaryam Nahushe, gatischa pavane, Maanam cha Duryodhane
Shauryam shantanave, balam hala dhare, satyam cha Kunti sute
Vigyanam Vidure bhavatu bhavataam keertimcha Naraayane.

May you live long like the age of Drona's son Asvatthama, may your deeds be famous like of King Dasharatha, may your enemy be diminished like of Lord Rama, May your prosperity be like of King Nahusha, may you attain the speed of Vayu, may you be proud  like  Duryodhana.Be generous like Surya Putra, be strong like Bhima, be truthful like Yudhisthira, be wise like Vidura, be glorious like Narayana.

धनं च मानं च तथेन्द्रियाणि
प्राणांश् च हृत्वा मम सर्वमेव I
पलायसे कुत्र धृतोऽद्य चौर
त्वं भक्तिदाम्नासि मया निरुद्धः II Chauraashtakam

O Thief! Having stolen my wealth, my honour, my senses, my life and my everything, where can You run to? I have caught You with the rope of my devotion. ( This is a stuti on sri Krishna )

       अपमानं पुरस्कृत्य मानं कृत्वा तु पृष्ठतः ।
      स्वार्थमभ्युद्धरेत्प्राज्ञः स्वार्थभ्रंशो हि मूर्खता ॥
      स्कन्धेनापि वहेच्छत्रुं कालमासाद्य बुद्धिमान् ।
      वहता कृष्णसर्पेण मण्डूका विनिपातिताः ॥ Pancha tantra

By compromising self respect and boldly facing dishonour  one can fulfil many a mission. Man's stupidity lies in protecting self-respect and fearing dishonour to an extreme and thereby damaging himself. If the situation demands, then one can even carry one's enemy on the back. By carrying his enemies on his back at the right time, the snake killed all the frogs.

अभिमानं च मानं च त्यक्त्वा वर्तस्व मातृषु।
अनु राजानमार्यां च कैकेयीमम्ब कारय।।2.58.19।।Ramayana

'O mother, conduct yourself with other mothers without pride and egoism. Ensure that venerable Kaikeyi remains well disposed towards the king. ( Sri Rama to Kausalya )

निर्मर्यादस्तु पुरुषः पापाचारसमन्वितः।
मानं न लभते सत्सु भिन्नचारित्रदर्शनः।।2.109.3।।Ramayana
A man not bound by morality, engaged in evil deeds and conducts himself contrary to good character is not respected by the virtuous. (Rama to Jabali)

अपमानं पुरस्कृत्य मानं कृत्वा तु पृष्ठतः ।
स्वार्थम् अभ्युद्धरेत् प्राज्ञः कार्य-ध्वंसो हि मूर्खता ॥ २३७ ॥Pancha tantra
apamānaṃ puraskṛtya mānaṃ kṛtvā tu pṛṣṭhataḥ |
svārtham abhyuddharet prājñaḥ kārya-dhvaṃso hi mūrkhatā || 3.237 ||
A wise man should achieve his object by compromising self-respect and boldly facing dishonour; losing focus on achieving one’s objective will be foolish. 

शूरः सुरूपः सुभगश् च वाग्मी शस्त्राणि शास्त्राणि विदांकरोतु ।
अर्थं विना नैव यशश् च मानं प्राप्नोति मर्त्यो ऽत्र मनुष्य-लोके ॥ २४ ॥
śūraḥ surūpaḥ subhagaś ca vāgmī śastrāṇi śāstrāṇi vidāṃkarotu |
arthaṃ vinā naiva yaśaś ca mānaṃ prāpnoti martyo ‘tra manuṣya-loke || 
Those who are brave, handsome, fortunate, well-educated and knowledgeable should understand that no one in this wide world attains fame or honour without wealth. -Pancha tantra

सह देहेन मानेन वर्धमानेन मन्युना ।
करोति विग्रहं कामी कामिष्वन्ताय चात्मन: ॥ SB 3.31.29

saha dehena mānena
vardhamānena manyunā I
karoti vigrahaṁ kāmī
kāmiṣv antāya cātmanaḥ II

With the growth of the body, the living entity, in order to vanquish his soul, increases his false prestige and anger and thereby creates enmity towards similarly lusty people.

दानेन पाणिर्न तु कङ्कणेन स्नानेन शुद्धिर्न तु चन्दनेन ।
मानेन तृप्‍तिर्न तु भोजनेन ज्ञानेन मुक्तिर्न तु पूजनेन ॥

dānena pāṇirna tu kaṅkaṇena snānena śuddhirna tu candanena ।
mānena tṛp‍tirna tu bhojanena jñānena muktirna tu pūjanena ॥
Bestowal makes a hand (graceful), not bracelets; ablution purifies, not sandalwood paste; contentment comes from character, not food; absolution comes from knowledge, not worshipping.

किन्नु हित्वा प्रियो भवति। किन्नु हित्वा न सोचति।।
मानं हित्वा प्रियो भवति। क्रोधं हित्वा न सोचति।।
Discarding which, one becomes loved by all?
Discarding which, one does not grieve?
One who is without vanity is loved by all. 
One without anger never grieves. 

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH