RELATIVES-BHANDHAVAAH- बान्धवाः,

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माता च कमला देवी पिता देवो जनार्दनः।

बान्धवा विष्णुभक्ताश्च स्वदेशो भुवनत्रयम्॥ Chanakya neeti
Maataa cha kamalaa devi pitaa devo Janaardhanah I
Bhandhavaa vishnu bhakthaascha svadesho bhuvantryam II

He who has his mother like goddess Lakshmi, father like Lord Vishnu and brothers and relatives like devotees of Vishnu,  dwells in a house replete with all the pleasures of the three worlds.
सत्यं  माता  पिता ज्ञानं धर्मो  भ्राता  दया  सखा  |

शान्तिः पत्नी  क्षमा  पुत्रः  षडेते  मम  बान्धवाः  ||  Maha Bharata

Satyam maata pitaa gyaanam  dharmo bhraataa daya sakhaa.

Shantih  patnee  kshamaa  putrah shadete mama baandhavaah.

  For me truthfulness is like my mother, knowledge as  my father,  religiousness as my brother, peace as my wife, and forgiveness as my son.   These six virtues are like my close relatives.

கொடுத்தலும் இன்சொலும் ஆற்றின் அடுக்கிய

சுற்றத்தால் சுற்றப் படும்.-Kural-525

He will be surrounded by numerous relatives who manifests generosity and affability.

आपत्सु मित्रं जानीयात् युद्धे शूरमृणेशुचिम् ।

भार्यां क्षीणेषु वित्तेषु व्यसनेषु च बान्धवान् ॥Hitopadesa

Friend in difficulties, The powerful in war, In debt the virtuous, The wife during loss of wealth, And know relatives during calamity.

न च विद्या समो वन्धुर्न च व्याधिसमो रिपुः ।

न चापत्यसमः स्नेहो न च दैवात्परं वलम् ॥

 na cha vidyaa samo bandhurna cha vyaadhisamo ripuH

na chaapatyasamsH sneho na cha daivaatpara.n valam

 There is no relative like knowledge, no enemy like disease, no love like love for son, and no power like favourable providence.

त्यजन्ति मित्राणि धनैर्विहीनं  पुत्राश्च दाराश्च सहृज्जनाश्च ।
तमर्थवन्तं पुनराश्रयन्ति   अर्थो हि लोके मनुष्यस्य बन्धुः ॥

Friends, children, wife and all (so called) well wishers abandon a person with out money. They all come back to him once he becomes wealthy again.

उत्सवे व्यसने चैव दुर्भिक्षे राष्ट्रविप्लवे ।

राजद्वारे श्मशाने च यतिष्ठति स वान्धवः ॥

utsave vyasane chaiva durbhikshe raaShTraviplave

raajadvaare shmashaane yatiShThati cha sa vaandhavaH

He who stands with, in good times, bad times, draught, riot, war, king's court and after death; is a close relative.

जानीयात् प्रेषणे भृत्यान् वान्धवान् व्यसनागमे ।

मित्रं चापदि काले च भार्यां च विभवक्षये ॥

jaaniiyaat preShaNe bhRRityaan vaandhavaan vyasanaagame

mitra.n chaapadi kaale bhaarya.n cha vibhavakshNe

Truth of servant's loyality is revealed  in time of work, relatives’ genuineness   in time of danger and bad time and wife's love in time of loss of wealth.

अयं निजः परो वेति गणना लघुचेतसाम् ।

उदारचरितानां तु वसुधैव कुटुंबकम् ॥

This person is one of us, that one is not... So think only thesmall minded people. For the liberals, the world  itself is one big family.

कन्या वरयते रूपं माता वित्तं पिता श्रुतम् ।

बांधवाः कुलमिच्छंति मिष्टान्नमितरे जनाः ॥

kanyA varayate rUpam mAtA vittaM pitA shrutam ।

bAndhavAH kulamicChanti miShTaannam itare janAH ॥

A girl looks for beauty in her match. Mother wants to make sure that he is wealthy. Father looks for education. Relatives will look for good family so that they can make new acquaintances. Others look for good meal with lots of sweets.

वरं वनं व्याघ्रगजेन्द्रसेवितं  द्रुमालयः पत्रफलाम्बु सेवनम्।

तृणेशु शय्या शतजीर्णवल्कलं  न बन्धुमध्ये धनहीनजीवनम्।।

It is better to live under a tree in a jungle inhabited by tigers and elephants, to maintain oneself in such a place with ripe fruits and spring water, to lie down on grass and to wear the ragged barks of trees than to live amongst one's relations when reduced to poverty.

यस्मिन् देशे न सम्मानं न प्रीतिर्न च वान्धवाः ।

न च विद्यागमः कश्चित् तं देशं परिवर्ज्जयेत् ॥

yasmin deshe na sammaana.n na priitirna cha vaandhavaaH

na cha vidyaagamaH kashchit ta.n desha.n pairovarjjayet

The country where people do not have respect or friends( or relatives ) or love and where there are no scholars; one should leave that country.

अशोच्यः निर्द्धनःप्राज्ञोऽशोच्यः पण्डितवान्धवः ।

अशोच्या विधवा नारी पुत्र्पौत्रप्रतिष्ठिता ॥

ashochyaH nirddhanaH praadnyo.ashochyaH paNDitavaandhavaH

ashochyaa vidhavaa naarii putrapautrapratiShThitaa

Wise person does not regret even if he is poor, there is no reason to regret if friend( or relative ) is a wise one, a widow has no reason to regret if she has sons and grandsons.

परोSपि हितवान् बन्धुः बन्धुरप्यहितः परः ।

अत्यर्थं द्वेषितं व्याधेर्हितमारण्यमौषधम् ॥

ParOpi hitavaan vandhuhu bandhurapyahitah parah

atyarTham dveShitam vyaadherhitamaaraNyamauShadham

One who is beneficial is a kinsman though he is a stranger. One who is harmful is an enemy though he is a kinsman. When one is seriously sick, herbs from distant forest are used as medicine.

SRI KRISHNAYA THUBHYAM NAMAH